The Two F-Words Holding You Back Next Year

The Two F-Words Holding You BackThis time next year, we’ll be celebrating our achievements. We’ll have champagne toasts, big smiles, pats on the back, and renewed confidence. We’ll keep saying, I can’t believe I did that! But now we know we can. Does this sound too good to be true?

It’s not – 2015 could be the best freaking year you’ve ever had.

But first you need to know about the two  F-words that could derail you early on: Fear and lack of follow-through. Even people who rock confidence all year long and succeed in many other ways are thwarted by these two crooks. They’re insidious and operate below your awareness at times. They’ll also kill your dreams.

Now, don’t get all stomach-churny on me. I didn’t say you have to overcome the two F-words. Truth is, if you waited to master these two saboteurs you would never achieve your dreams. In fact, waiting is part of the saboteurism (new word by me).

So that means you need to start taking steps forward despite feeling afraid and despite urges to procrastinate.  Don’t worry – it can be done. I’m right there with you, feeling anxious about new changes. But we want it bad, right?

Creating Follow-Through

Getting stuff done feels good. When we procrastinate, we disparage ourselves and feel desperate. Let’s start changing that in 2015 – here is your very first opportunity.

Find a sticky note and pen. Now. Not when you’re done reading this post, but now.

Ask yourself: What do I want for my body and health in 2015 (or any goal)? Give it a name:

  • I want to feel better about my body.
  • I want a stronger, more well-conditioned body I can depend on.
  • I want sculpted muscles that turns heads.
  • I want more knowledge about how to train and eat for my goals.
  • I want to do unassisted pull ups.
  • I want to fit into [insert yours] size of clothes.
  • I want to perform better in the sport I love or get back to the sport I love.

Now for the hard part: Write it down.

Why would writing down your goal be the hard part, you ask? Surely that’s easy compared with follow-through!

My response to that is: Have you written it down yet? 

So write it down now. Even if it feels scary to ask for these things, write it down anyway. In fact, write it on three or four notes.

I have one more job for you. Put the sticky notes where you can see them in several locations – beside your bed, at your desk, in your car, on the bathroom mirror, in the book you’re reading. If your brain starts ignoring it then reword and repost it.

The reason Because we get bogged down in details and lose sight of the big picture.

When you have your eyes on the final outcome every day, you can base every decision you make on those goals. When you feel afraid, you’ll have that big goal at the forefront of your mind, not the scary task at hand.

It’s also easier to set micro-goals that get you closer to your dream in small steps.

Disassembling Fear

So besides follow-through and remembering your big goal every single day, how can you fight the fears that holds you back? Ignore them.

You ever hear of the book, Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway by Susan Jeffers? It’s great advice. If you wait to face your fears, you’ll never follow through. But now you’ve taken over the power: you have your big goal in front of you and you know what you want.

Similar to naming your goals, naming your fears can dilute their power over you.

So take another sticky note or piece of paper and write down your fears right now. Answer these questions:

  • What feels scary to me?
    • What will happen if I start making changes?
    • What will happen if I don’t make changes?
    • What’s the worst that can happen?
    • What’s the best that can happen?

Once you have this written down or typed (and you should do this right now), keep this list handy in a place you can easily find it. When you feel that resistance creeping in, read this list and read your goal. It’s that simple.

Everyone makes changes at their own pace, but it happens in a fairly structured way. See where you’re at by checking out the article I wrote about it HERE.

We try to complicate reaching our goals when in reality, we just need to take control over the two F-words. It’s time to do that NOW so that we can not just taste success, but swallow it whole next year. Ready? GO!

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8 thoughts on “The Two F-Words Holding You Back Next Year

  1. are you in my head??????
    BOTH of those F words apply to me and my psyche.
    Other F words? I have no trouble with those….

    keep these articles coming, darlin’!!!


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