These weekly roundups have been more like “sound-offs,” so maybe that’s a more appropriate title. All the same, this week I’m talking about another issue that you’re likely to have a strong opinion about.
You work hard in the gym and you’re looking hot. Plus you go heavy with fantastic form and people notice (nice job). Do you keep your head down or enjoy the attention?
Disrespect vs. Validation
This week I asked my Facebook readers what they thought about a guest post via FitJerk, who specializes in getting to the point in the most offensive (and hilarious) way possible. The responses were passionate.
The post, written by he and his friend Meara, postulates that chicks who lift should not be offended when they garner attention – be it your unwitting camel toe or your killer deadlift form. In fact, we should appreciate any and all attention and quit whining, they maintain.
Most of us are training to “gain admiration, acceptance, compliments or get people to notice your body either consciously or unconsciously,” says Meara, so why do we “end up transforming into little whiners” when we get attention?
“The difference between you and me is that I live for those moments,” says Meara. “I don’t care if the compliments coming from the hottest guy in school, or some ones grandfather, you can bet that I held my head higher after that compliment.”
Most of the Facebook respondents were adamant that this was a crock of shit. One reader named Amy said,
I don’t know about you, but I remember a lot of unwanted attention as a preteen. It made me feel skin-crawlingly uncomfortable to get cat calls from construction workers or up-and-down looks from anyone. It felt unsafe, vulnerable, and shameful. I was suddenly becoming an object of sexual desire for men, and clearly it meant I was trashy.
Fast-forward many years and I can’t even remember the last time I received “negative” attention. Yes, I get attention all the time. But I don’t notice it as negative or positive. Whether someone’s checking out my smokin’ physique or curiously watching what I’m doing in the gym, I’m a badass and it doesn’t bother me one bit. In fact, I like it.
I got swagga, you know? I strut my stuff to the max because I’m doing something remarkable: Crazy-consistent heavy lifting and a bangin’ body I’m fiercely proud of.
I OWN IT.
So of course I’m going to get attention. Since I’m also a badass, I’ve got self-confidence that could whip a cake. I doubt anyone would ever dare say anything rude to me because I would kick their motherluvin’ ass. And I’m not kidding.
Sexy and I Own It
Does that sound like you too? If not, I challenge you to change your mental image of yourself. We’re all working to better ourselves or we wouldn’t be at the gym. No one is “done.” You can own it no matter what stage of the game you’re at.
One of my online training clients who definitely owns it said this after reading the FitJerk article:
Back on Facebook, Janine said:
You can read more comments from readers here and feel free to chime in below. I genuinely appreciate hearing others’ opinions on this because I hadn’t thought about those experiences in a long time.
Whichever way you feel on the issue, it’s important to valued and respected. I get the baggage around being objectified and treated like “meat.” If people talk to you with disrespect I’d freaking tell management or get out of that gym.
But also think about whether a bit of swagga might help in these situations – being proud of your body and knowing you can handle anything.
Do you get unwanted attention? How do you handle it?