How Perfectionism Makes You Wait For What You Want

The most valuable and difficult thing I have ever learned is that perfection is a myth. That lesson may sound obvious, because everyone knows perfection isn’t realistic. But I don’t think it’s quite that obvious anymore. We’re deluged with perfect-looking people, food, workouts, and whatever you care to name. Sophisticated photo editing is within anyone’s reach. Not only that, but social media posts, which supposedly show real life, are actually just the good stuff. Rarely do we see someone who isn’t at {Read More…}

How To Strength Train After A Mastectomy

It had been about six months since my breast reconstruction surgery and bilateral prophylactic mastectomy. I was at the gym, following an old training program I wrote. Back to training for months, I’d mostly avoided chest training until recently. I glanced down to see which exercise was up next: Push-ups. I felt a little flutter in my stomach and made a spur-of-the-moment decision: I would try push-ups this time instead of skipping them. Since it would suck to lower myself down and choke at the {Read More…}

There Has To Be A First Time

Today I went to the gym for the first time in nine weeks. Even though I could only do a light workout, mentally I needed to make this happen. As I was getting ready, I felt afraid. Afraid of feeling out of place. Afraid of making a mistake and overdoing it. Afraid of being demotivated by doing a light workout, when I was used to the heavy lifting prior to my surgery. Fears, even though I’ve been to my gym hundreds of times. As I heard these fears run through {Read More…}

Why Owning It Is Critical to Aesthetic Goals

Something that will put a pit in my stomach every time is watching a woman downplay her assets, sell herself short, or put her true desires under wraps in an effort to avoid subtle shaming about her goals, aspirations, or body. That’s why I talked about training-for-aesthetics shaming in a previous, passionate post. All this has me thinking about why owning it is a huge, non-negotiable part of getting fantastic results and staying motivated when it comes to strength training for women. In and of itself, I still maintain that training for aesthetics is a {Read More…}

The Woman’s Guide to Beating Gym Intimidation

I was about to approach the squat rack when I felt it in my gut: gym intimidation. Wut! Me?! Now, I haven’t felt intimidated in the weight room for many years. And as someone with a little brother growing up, I have a built-in fiesty disposition. But then, out of nowhere, a gnawing insecurity gripped me. I needed to approach a rack near a group of guys shooting the bull. This feeling surprised me big time. So I consciously thought to myself, “What the hell? You got this. They’re {Read More…}

Break Through in the Weight Room

I’ve always felt the pull to explore. It’s what propelled me to relocate three times (once on my own), expand my writing career into personal training, and continue many smaller changes along the way. That doesn’t mean change isn’t scary to me. I cherish my cozy home, family, and routines. I’ve even had anxiety attacks and other physical symptoms of stress around times of change. And there have been times when I simply hid while I processed what I wanted {Read More…}