There Has To Be A First Time

Today I went to the gym for the first time in nine weeks. Even though I could only do a light workout, mentally I needed to make this happen. As I was getting ready, I felt afraid. Afraid of feeling out of place. Afraid of making a mistake and overdoing it. Afraid of being demotivated by doing a light workout, when I was used to the heavy lifting prior to my surgery. Fears, even though I’ve been to my gym hundreds of times. As I heard these fears run through {Read More…}

Why Owning It Is Critical to Aesthetic Goals

Something that will put a pit in my stomach every time is watching a woman downplay her assets, sell herself short, or put her true desires under wraps in an effort to avoid subtle shaming about her goals, aspirations, or body. That’s why I talked about training-for-aesthetics shaming in a previous, passionate post. All this has me thinking about why owning it is a huge, non-negotiable part of getting fantastic results and staying motivated when it comes to strength training for women. In and of itself, I still maintain that training for aesthetics is a {Read More…}

The Woman’s Guide to Beating Gym Intimidation

I was about to approach the squat rack when I felt it in my gut: gym intimidation. Wut! Me?! Now, I haven’t felt intimidated in the weight room for many years. And as someone with a little brother growing up, I have a built-in fiesty disposition. But then, out of nowhere, a gnawing insecurity gripped me. I needed to approach a rack near a group of guys shooting the bull. This feeling surprised me big time. So I consciously thought to myself, “What the hell? You got this. They’re {Read More…}

Break Through in the Weight Room

I’ve always felt the pull to explore. It’s what propelled me to relocate three times (once on my own), expand my writing career into personal training, and continue many smaller changes along the way. That doesn’t mean change isn’t scary to me. I cherish my cozy home, family, and routines. I’ve even had anxiety attacks and other physical symptoms of stress around times of change. And there have been times when I simply hid while I processed what I wanted {Read More…}

Friday Roundup: Are You Vulnerable or Invincible?

These weekly roundups have been more like “sound-offs,” so maybe that’s a more appropriate title. All the same, this week I’m talking about another issue that you’re likely to have a strong opinion about. You work hard in the gym and you’re looking hot. Plus you go heavy with fantastic form and people notice (nice job). Do you keep your head down or enjoy the attention? Disrespect vs. Validation This week I asked my Facebook readers what they thought about {Read More…}

Give Weightlifting a Chance to Change Your Life

You’ve walked by the weightlifting area every week for a year on your way to your cardio pump class. You always glance at the people lifting weights – some are standing in front of the mirror with a laser-like focus, others are grimacing, sweating, and grunting or even yelling as they hoist large weights over their bodies. If people see you, you imagine them laughing inside because clearly you don’t belong there. You’re just passing by. But you know how to {Read More…}