Stay Strong Despite Muscle Naysayers

Last week I talked about allowing each other to embrace our desire to look hot. It might seem obvious, but there’s a lot of pushback around training for aesthetics. If you feel comfortable admitting that you do, great – you haven’t bought into the “movements, not muscles” dogma. But these days, there’s so many voices in the fitness world dictating what we should be doing when we need to train in ways that are best for us. There’s also a lot {Read More…}

Friday Roundup: Are You Vulnerable or Invincible?

These weekly roundups have been more like “sound-offs,” so maybe that’s a more appropriate title. All the same, this week I’m talking about another issue that you’re likely to have a strong opinion about. You work hard in the gym and you’re looking hot. Plus you go heavy with fantastic form and people notice (nice job). Do you keep your head down or enjoy the attention? Disrespect vs. Validation This week I asked my Facebook readers what they thought about {Read More…}

7 Stepping Stones to Body Love

Long before images of perfect, six-pack abs and lithe, youthful actresses dominated the media, women were terribly hard on themselves. It continues today, maybe more so than ever: If our bodies don’t meet our stringent personal or cultural standards, we indulge an ongoing internal flogging: “I hate my legs.” “I’m so fat. I’m disgusting.” “I can’t even fit into my clothes. I hate my body.” As a trainer and coach I hear comments like these often, and I always flinch {Read More…}

Of Self-Doubt and Forging Ahead (and Happy 3rd Blogiversary)

If you’re looking for positives about getting older, you may not see them until you’re actually there. I knew I was suffering badly during my 20’s, but it’s only now that I can look back and see how far I’ve come. I was a late bloomer; I didn’t develop true self-confidence until after I had my daughter and returned to strength training. My wiser, broader perspective made me realize that  comparing myself to others is a losing game. While competing can be {Read More…}

A Plea for This Holiday Season: Live in This Moment

I noticed it yesterday when I was out and about shopping: People with palatable tension, pushing carts a bit faster; annoyed faces; drivers with less patience; and a sense that I was in certain people’s way as I went about my business. It’s the holiday season – a time when everyone seems pissed off, in a hurry, and intolerant. Everyone’s rushing around trying to prepare the perfect holiday experience. People with too much on their calendars. Working, taking care of {Read More…}

Fantastic Health & Body: One… Small Action… at a Time

“It is believed that the Babylonians were the first to make New Year’s resolutions, and people all over the world have been breaking them ever since.” ~Infoplease I don’t know about you, but I’m an avoider when it comes to large, abstract things I have to do. I’ve rarely accomplished anything that seemed gigantic or vague. The budget needs work? Uh, sure thing, I’ll get to it. The basement needs an overhaul? I’ll get right on that. You know where {Read More…}