How Perfectionism Makes You Wait For What You Want

The most valuable and difficult thing I have ever learned is that perfection is a myth. That lesson may sound obvious, because everyone knows perfection isn’t realistic. But I don’t think it’s quite that obvious anymore. We’re deluged with perfect-looking people, food, workouts, and whatever you care to name. Sophisticated photo editing is within anyone’s reach. Not only that, but social media posts, which supposedly show real life, are actually just the good stuff. Rarely do we see someone who isn’t at {Read More…}

How To Strength Train After A Mastectomy

It had been about six months since my breast reconstruction surgery and bilateral prophylactic mastectomy. I was at the gym, following an old training program I wrote. Back to training for months, I’d mostly avoided chest training until recently. I glanced down to see which exercise was up next: Push-ups. I felt a little flutter in my stomach and made a spur-of-the-moment decision: I would try push-ups this time instead of skipping them. Since it would suck to lower myself down and choke at the {Read More…}

The Care And Maintenance Of Lifters

Isn’t it just the best feeling when you find out your doctor lifts? Doctors who lift say things like, “Let’s keep you working out.” I get a fuzzy feeling when this happens. Recently, this happened when I went to a hand doctor for a sore thumb (no, really). A lifter himself, he said something else that resonated: “When something starts hurting, I know it’s just a matter of time til something else comes up.” He shrugged and smiled. If you’re frustrated by aches and pains {Read More…}

How To Create Your Own No-Guilt Travel Workout

I like looking at training problems from angles most people don’t think of – until they come up, of course. Take your typical travel workout, for example. The usual articles focus on killer bodyweight workouts in idyllic settings. But how often do you have a perfect gym while you travel? How often are you actually motivated to do any exercise? And how often do any of those travel workouts resemble what you do at home? Hardly ever, in my experience. I {Read More…}

2 Essential Techniques For Getting Back To Your Workouts

For most people, it’s not if you’ll fall off your workouts, it’s when. Believe it or not, it’s not an indictment on your character – it just is. But getting back to your workouts needs attention, just like anything else you want to happen in your life. We tend to think of our workouts as a luxury or “add-on” in our lives. So they’re the first things to go when life gets busy. That’s a reason for falling off, but what’s the solution? {Read More…}

How Fit Women Can Counterattack Midlife Weight Gain

Hey there. It’s me, badass midlife woman lifter. But I’m not pretending to have the perfect body. Midlife weight gain is stalking me like an ambush predator. It’s been like a surprise attack to see my waistline suddenly (it seems) increase by an inch, then again by a half inch. I might add that I remain active and haven’t changed how I eat. Fortunately, I still feel like I “look good.” But I want to wear what I used to {Read More…}

How to Use Warm-Up Sets For Big Lifts

Last week I talked about liberating myself from self-imposed, rigid mandates that have bogged down my blog. So I’m kicking off my more relaxed approach with a topic you don’t read about very often: Using warm-up sets to your advantage, instead of letting them ruin your progress. Recently, I was checking in with one of my long-time online clients (who is a badass woman lifter, I might add). While reviewing her workout logs, I noticed that she wasn’t exactly sticking to {Read More…}

Why “Should’s” Suck The Life Out of Blogging (And Everything Else)

This post is about getting caught up in the wrong things. It’s about the “should’s” that have been crushing my bloggy soul and preventing me from being here. If you also have “should’s” that are sucking the life out of your passions, you might be able to relate with me on this. Clearly, writing this blog and finding new coaching clients have not been at the top of my priority list this past year. First, let me tell you what I’ve been doing {Read More…}

The “What to Wear” Dilemma Simplified

You might be surprised to learn that I don’t wear gym clothes 24/7. In fact, you may also not know that I’m a freelance writer, in addition to being a personal trainer. I need to fix up when I meet with clients to plan copywriting projects, and I like that. I enjoy clothes a great deal, actually, but I need them to move with me, not against me. For one thing, I’ve got to feel relaxed in what I wear, even at {Read More…}

The Simple Truth About Muscle And Training Mindfully

I recorded myself doing dumbbell military presses recently, and as always, I was surprised. My wrists were slightly bent, which I never would have noticed otherwise and could cause issues. When I saw the recording, I realized I needed a cue to keep my wrists neutral. “Knuckles up” does the trick, and I filed it away to be used in my next workout. This cue will be one more technique in my invisible toolbox that helps me push harder, safely. Call it {Read More…}